Sunday Aug 13, 2023

S3 E09: Rita Phetmixay: No such thing as boundaries in Asian culture - the Lao diaspora, owning the narrative, and healing intergenerational trauma wi...

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Rita is a 2nd generation Lao Isaan (pronounced E-sahn) American holistic mental health & wellness professional based in Los Angeles. She is also the creator/host of the Healing Out Lao'd podcast, which explores the intersections of Lao diaspora storytelling, healing, and tools for sustainability.

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DEFINITIONS

  • Pho: Vietnamese soup dish consisting of broth, rice noodles, herbs, and meat.
  • Laos: Country in South East Asia bordered by Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand, Myanmar & China


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TAKEAWAYS

  1. Laos is the most bombed country per capita, and it was bombed by the US during its secret war on Laos and Cambodia at the same time as its war on Vietnam.
  2. Being able to name previous generations' trauma responses, such as being overly protective, or overly frugal, and how they shaped our behavior patterns (eg. lack of agency/trust) can help us finally heal and stop the cycle of intergenerational trauma.
  3. Moving from a place where you're the only Asian or only anything, to a place where you're surrounded by your people can be jarring at first.
  4. In Asian cultures, setting boundaries can sometimes feel rigid. The way to soften these black and white definitions is to learn to communicate our love and desire to please, while still also communicating our own needs.
  5. While our culture was shaped by the people who created it and the norms at the time, we in the present have a chance to shape it for our current time.
  6. Patriotism is more nuanced than unconditional love for the country. For many, it comes with pride, joy, but also grief and a feeling of responsibility.
  7. Losing part of our identity is hard, but it can also bring a lot of growth as we expand how we define ourselves.
  8. It's easy to blame other people or circumstances, but no matter what the situation is, we are ultimately responsible for managing our feelings, and setting healthy boundaries.


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